We should be thankful for having 16 weeks of maternity leave. 9 months you prepare yourself, assimilate this novelty. A new little person in your life that will depend on you for a long time, shaking the foundations of your life and in many cases changing your values.
A complete change of life – that person and you will now be a family. You will also have 16 weeks to recover, to take care of them, to get to know them, to understand them, to restructure your existence and adapt your life to this new environment. 16 weeks of leave where nobody bothers you or asks you if you have to return to work earlier, no pressure, you have time to treasure.
Now, that child of yours that you have raised, kept safe, helped to grow up to be a good person and to find his or her place in the world, suddenly one day disappears. This may be because of an illness, an accident, or as in my case due to a traumatic and unexpected cause from one day to the next because of medical negligence.
A child in your care, under your roof, with his toothbrush and cologne in the bathroom, they are still there.
Tell me, for such an absurd and irreversible loss, what kind of sick leave is there?
Death is totally linked to life, it is a taboo that we do not manage to reveal and understand, but in one way or another it comes to all of us.
They say that there is ‘the law of life’, that your parents leave before you do is part of the intrinsic nature of the passing of the years, getting older… not going against nature. And although it must be equally difficult, imagine a loss at 18 years of life, or 7, or 13, or perinatal. How do you face the routine, the life you had, your work with that normality that you no longer know, always feeling that loss, that hole in the soul that nobody sees without authorised sick leave due to the death of a child ? There is only sick leave due to anxiety or depression, with routine controls and the demanding and never desired question: When will you return?
Remember, 16 weeks for paternity/maternity; 0 weeks for mortality of the same child
Fortunately, not all parents will go through this ordeal. For me the greatest pain a human being can feel, the loss of a child in whatever conditions; although it would be worthwhile to assess from the political, social and even medical and business contexts, if the law can help in these cases.
A big THANK YOU to the company that has seen me grow since I was 20 years old for giving me my space. I am so grateful to the company to allow me my grief and to offer silence. I will never be able to thank you enough for your support.
I don’t know if it is loyalty, stability, understanding, affinity or a combination of all of them. Maybe just the simple commitment to give the best of both sides. In any case we are talking about people, that is what companies are and their dictates are governed by their depth, honesty and heart. That is why I will always be grateful for the care and affection I receive. We all have a little piece of Oscar in our hearts.
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